While there’s nothing wrong with ridiculing and critiquing the sexist Halloween costumes on sale (this tumblr has a pretty good collection of them), this is just a reminder that no matter how ridiculous, revealing or even racist* a person’s costume is, costumes do not equal consent. No matter what they’re wearing, it’s still not an invitation to harassment or assault, and they’re still not ‘asking for it.’
Here are 10 quick reasons why someone might be wearing one of these ridiculous sexist costumes:
1.) They really want to dress up as a certain character or person, and this is the only available women’s version for it.
2.) They really want to dress up as a certain character or person, and the men’s version doesn’t fit.
3.) They really want to dress up as a certain character or person, and the men’s version is worse.
4.) They don’t have the time, money or skills to make their own costume.
5.) They spilled something on their original Halloween costume, and this is their back up costume.
6.) They really like the way their body looks right now, and this costume shows it off rather well.
7.) They lost a bet.
8.) Someone dared them to wear it.
9.) The costume isn’t actually that revealing, it’s just the way it hangs off their body.
10.) Because they want to!
And honestly, the last reason should be good enough.
Have a good Halloween, y’all.
*If they are wearing a racist costume, though, you should tell ’em that their costume is racist.
Haven’t done one of these in a while, so for this weekend, let’s go back in time to 1993 with Salt-n-Pepa’s None of Your Business.
I chose this song for this weekend because it astonishes me just how relevant this song still is.
Sometimes strangers think they have a right to comment on your body and your choices. They forget that you’re an adult capable of making your own decisions. They disapprove of your tattoos, your weight, the length of your skirt, the number of times you go out, the number of people you have sex with- and for some reason, they think that means that you no longer deserve privacy or respect.
Obviously, this is nonsense. Respect isn’t just for people you deem ‘respectable.’
So this weekend? Go wild. Drink, party, have one night stands or stay at home and have a Lord of the Rings marathon. Some people may not approve of your choices, but forget ’em. It’s none of their business.